You Matter…

black woman with thick curly hair in a white tank top standing in front of a body of water

Be honest. Do you take care of your body? I mean like really take care of it.

What about your hair? Your nails? Or even your skin? One of the main things you take for granted is this amazing body of yours — the vehicle through which you get to see and interact with the world.

You so often focus on what you dislike — your freckles, stubby nails, curly hair, acne, fat rolls — that you forget to be thankful for your body (with all of it’s annoying quirks and all!). There’s a verse in the Bible that says that your body is a “temple.” Whether you’re religious or not, that really is an accurate description. While your body is a part of you, it isn’t…you. It’s just the thing that houses you.

Can you relate?

As a single woman, you are constantly getting bombarded with messages about your body. You’re too tall or too short. Too fat or too skinny. Too dark or too light. And God forbid you don’t look a “certain way,” you may never be able to attract a partner or “Mr. Right.” These messages are so toxic to your spirit! 

As a single woman, I went through a period of time where I did not take care of my body — not in any way that really mattered anyway. My body was like my car. I did the basic just to ensure it would keep running. But a visit to my doctor quickly revealed to me that unlike my car, my body needs more than just the basic. My body needs TLC — tender love and care — to ensure it looks and feels its best.

The main message that I want to leave you with today is that your body is precious. You only get one. So regardless of whether you are single and ready to mingle, or single and not looking to rekindle, you have got to start taking care of your body, all of it!

What could that look like for you?

Showering and moisturizing regularly

Getting a massage

Going to get a mani-pedi

Drinking lots and lots of water

Exfoliating/using scrubs

Seeing a professional hairstylist

Going on a diet/Changing the way you eat

Wearing sunscreen

Exercising (either at home or a local gym)

Joining a Zumba class

Joining a dance class

Watching a YouTube video of someone who shares your skin/hair type for tips & tricks

Getting a plush/satin bath or sleep robe

Buying a satin pillowcase

Investing in cotton sheets

One last thing…

Your body deserves the best — whether you’re in a relationship or not. I hope that this post serves as a reminder to take care of yourself and truly start to love the skin you’re in.

What would you add to the list?