From “Abandoned” to Cherished: You Need to Know You’re Not Alone Pt 3

Check out part 1 and part 2 here if you haven’t already. Read on for the final part below:

Fear Isn’t Sinful — But Don’t Camp There

Feeling afraid of being alone forever doesn’t mean you don’t trust God. It means you’re human. But don’t let fear set up permanent residence in your heart.

You read those stories about homeless people who find an empty house and “squat” in it long enough to earn squatters’ rights. You need to learn to notice fearful thinking about your singleness when it comes up and kick them out of your mind right away! Don’t let negative thoughts earn the right to stay in your mind!

Remember, when fear pops up, name it. Say out loud in prayer: “Lord, I’m scared I’ll never get married. I trust you but help me in my unbelief.”

Trust me, God can handle it. And then, ask God to replace your fear with faith — faith in His character, His goodness, His love, His plan, faith in Him point, blank, period — not just faith in His ability to deliver a man to you.

You’re Not Waiting to Get a Life — You Already Have One to Live

Fear of being alone thrives when you see marriage as the starting point for real life. But sis, your life is already here. It’s now.

You are called to live life (and live it well) now. Plug into community.

Fear of being alone thrives when you see marriage as the starting point for real life. Share on X

Don’t just sit at home because you don’t have a date. Get out of the house! Take a class! Throw a picnic. Go to the beach! Travel and see the world! Take yourself to the spa! Book an appointment to get your hair and nails done! Head to the farmer’s market! Take yourself out to the trendy restaurant you keep hearing about! Work on your purpose, calling, or business idea. Join one of your church’s small group? Oh? They don’t have one? Then don’t just sit there! Create the group you need!

Sis, for the love of all that is holy, please do not put your life on pause. You are worthy now; and just because you’re not in a romantic relationship doesn’t mean you have to be alone. God can use your singleness in ways marriage never could.

The Bible says, “I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.” —John 10:10

Your having a full and fulfilling life does not begin with a husband. It begins with Jesus.

Sis, don’t put your life on pause. You are worthy now; and just because you’re not in a romantic relationship doesn’t mean you have to be alone. Share on X

Final Encouragement:

Sis, you’re not behind. You’re not forgotten. You’re not invisible. You’re not abandoned. You’re not rejected. You’re not the exception to God’s goodness. Your life is not on hold. You are not alone — He is with you, right here, right now. So start living!

📣 Share this with the friend who’s questioning her story. Remind her it’s not over—God’s still writing.