You Need to Swipe Smart, Not Desperate: How to Find Mr. Right and Avoid Mr. All Wrong

Online dating. A place where you can meet the love of your life — or more likely, someone who will make you regret re-downloading Hinge to your phone in 5-minutes flat! 😔

If you’re looking for someone to tell you that online dating is easy, then I sadly have to disappoint you. It’s not. There will be highs and lows.

In addition, having access to so many options means that people will treat you and their other potential matches like the candy in the middle aisle of Party City.

You know what I’m talking about. That large section filled with empty bags that you can fill with super cheap candy…you don’t even pay attention. You just throw them in the bag and assume you’ll like some of them.

I know it’s hard out here. But I don’t want you being on a dating app to feel like medieval torture. With the right mindset, clear boundaries, and the power of the Holy Spirit, you can navigate online dating without losing yourself (or your sanity).

First Things First: Dating Apps Are a Tool, Not a Savior

Repeat after me:

• Hinge is not Jesus.
• Bumble is not my breakthrough.
• Coffee Meets Bagel is not my Holy Spirit.
• Plenty of Fish may be filled with plenty of duds.
• Tinder is…well, probably not for us single, Christian ladies on the abstinence journey. 🙃

Dating apps are just one, yes ONE, way God might use to introduce you to someone. Or, He might not. But either way, it is your job to approach dating apps with discernment…not desperation.

If you’re on the app because you’re starting to think it’s your “last stop” before you reach OldMaidVille, you probably shouldn’t get on the app just yet. Take some time to learn and remind yourself of:

1. Who you are (as an individual and not as a girlfriend/wife)
2. Whose you are (a child of the King), and
3. What/who determines your worth and value (God alone).

So how do you swipe smart? Read part 2 for a few simple tricks you can add to your online dating arsenal.