Should I Text Him For the Third Time…or Start a New Life in Another Country? Pt 3

Check out part 1 and part 2 here if you haven’t already.

So you’ve reviewed his words and actions and have noticed that they’re not really matching up. Then chances are, you know everything you need to know at that point.

He keeps promising you the world when he can’t even keep the promise he made to you last week. What more do you need?

There’s a cliche saying that goes, If he wanted to, he would.

This statement is rooted in fact passed down from generations and generations of women.

You kept believing the lies, rationalizations, and justifications for your partner’s bad behavior only to be blindsided when he inevitably did everything he couldn’t do for you for the next girl. If he wanted to, he would.

Sis, please do not believe all of his excuses for why he keeps letting you down.

If he appears unsure, he’s already decided.

And if he’s breadcrumbing you with just enough attention to keep you hoping? That’s not love — that’s emotional manipulation.

You kept believing the lies, rationalizations, and justifications for your partner’s bad behavior only to be blindsided when he inevitably did everything he couldn’t do for you for the next girl. If he wanted to, he would. Share on X

So what are your options? Should you:

• Send that third follow-up text?
• Wait by your phone?
• Write an Emmy-worthy message to “make him understand”? or
• Move to another country to avoid ever having to see his punchable face again?

Scratch all of that! Here’s what you can do instead:

• Journal it out
  • Get all of your thoughts onto paper. Untangle your thoughts and feelings in a way that you can easily reference as you make your decision.
• Pray
  • Not just for a “miracle” text from him, but for wisdom, peace, and the strength to walk away if needed. I know walking away hurts. But if God gives you the sign that he is not it, the sooner you leave, the sooner you can heal.
• Call your friend
  • The one who will talk you off the ledge, call you out on your bull, and force you out of the house when you’d much rather wallow in pity for the ninth month straight.
• Live.
  • Go live your life. Like, now. Besides, it beats waiting on a half-hearted “wyd” text from some lame-o any day.

Send this to your friend who needs to delete his number but keeps praying for confirmation. (Spoiler: This is your confirmation, sis!)