Check out part 1 here if you haven’t already. Read on for part 2 below:
The Truth You Shouldn’t Forget
God may not move on your timetable, but trust me: God IS moving.
In Genesis 24, we see Abraham send his servant to go look for a wife for his son, Isaac, back in his hometown, Ur.
Abraham was adamant that Isaac not marry a woman from Canaan.
When his servant remarked that the woman may not want to return with him, Abraham told him, “The LORD God of heaven, who took me from my father’s house and from the land of my family, and who spoke to me and swore to me, saying, ‘To your descendants I give this land,’ He will send His angel before you, and you shall take a wife for my son from there. And if the woman is not willing to follow you, then you will be released from this oath; only do not take my son back there.” So the servant put his hand under the thigh of Abraham his master, and swore to him concerning this matter.”
God may not move on your timetable, but trust me: God IS moving. Share on XIn this we see two things noted in the Enduring Word Commentary: 1) Abraham thought he may die before his servant returned (thus Abraham giving his servant the terms to release him from Abraham’s oath), and 2) Abraham believed that no wife for Isaac was better than the wrong wife from Canaan!
Sis, did you catch that? No husband is better than the wrong husband. To put it plainly, these verses reveal that it is way more important to marry the right person than it is to just be married to any person!
Or as one woman put it to me, when I asked for prayer about my singleness: “God hears you and He has something special prepared for you. But it’s going to take time because God doesn’t want to give you trash.”
I now look back on my dating history and thank GOD he ripped certain “trash” out of my hands when I was tempted to hold onto certain guys in my blindness/desperation. (And I’m not saying that to bash those men! I’m saying that their behavior towards me was emotionally toxic and God, in His loving omniscience, removed me from those situations).
Abraham believed that no wife for Isaac was better than the wrong wife from Canaan! Sis, did you catch that? No husband is better than the wrong husband. Share on XSome of the people who you envy and who seem happily married are married…to trash. 😳 They so badly wanted marriage that they were willing to accept all kinds of dysfunction (e.g., cheating, abuse, neglect, etc.) in order to get it.
Sis, from one woman to another, please, PLEASE don’t let this be you!
If you’re dating a guy — or worse, engaged — and you clearly see red flags popping up left and right, and you’ve been asking God for a sign, this 👏🏽 is 👏🏽 your 👏🏽 sign 👏🏽 Chuck him! 🚮
What If I’m the Exception?
Now if you’re still struggling with this idea, then there’s something else I want to address. The devil is super slick (at least he thinks he is), and this is especially true if you lack discernment to see what he is doing. If the devil can’t get you to believe that God is bad, he’ll try another tactic. Sometimes, the devil will try to have you believe God is good… just not to you.
- You believe in God’s timing — for her.
- You believe in God’s goodness — for her.
- You believe God writes beautiful love stories — for her.
But for you?
- God forgot.
- God is asleep.
- God neglected to hit the send button.
- God is waiting for you to be “more spiritual.”
- You missed the boat and you’re going to have to keep watching couples cruise by.
Well guess what? In the words of the veritable philosopher, Maury Povich, “The lie detector test determined that too was a lie.“
Don’t let the devil trick you, sis. The Bible says, “No good thing does He withhold from those who walk uprightly.” —Psalm 84:11
If God has not brought the relationship yet, it’s not because He’s punishing you. It’s because He’s protecting you, preparing you, preparing your partner, or has another plan you can’t begin to imagine or anticipate.
Check out part 3 for one thing you need to avoid to push through the loneliness and enjoy your single season.
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