Be honest — do you truly take care of your body? I don’t just mean throwing on lotion because your elbows looked like powdered donuts or slapping on lip balm because your lips started cracking. I mean do you really take care of it?
What about your hair? Your nails? Your skin? Your gut health? This body of yours — quirks, scars, and stretch marks included — is the vessel through which you get to live this life.
But too often, we take our bodies for granted — until they scream for our attention in ways we can’t ignore. A sudden illness. A flare-up. Fatigue that won’t go away. And all because we’ve been running on empty while pouring into everything and everyone else.
We Focus More on Flaws Than Gratitude
One of the things I’ve noticed about myself is I can always see what could stand to be changed or fixed on my body. Can you relate? We spend more time fixating on what we don’t like: the acne scars, the bloating, the cellulite, the “10 pounds” we’re always trying to lose.
We stand in front of mirrors and pick ourselves apart. We rehearse every critique we’ve received — sometimes from people we don’t even respect or care about! All the while, we forget that our body is not the enemy nor a problem to be fixed.
We stand in front of mirrors and pick ourselves apart. We rehearse every critique we’ve received — sometimes from people we don’t even respect or care about! All the while, we forget that our body is not the enemy nor a problem to… Share on XThere’s a verse in the Bible that says that your body is a “temple.” That really is an accurate description. While your body is a part of you, it isn’t…you. It’s just the ‘vehicle’ that houses you.
There’s a verse in the Bible that says that your body is a “temple.” That really is an accurate description. While your body is a part of you, it isn’t…you. It’s just the ‘vehicle’ that houses you. Share on XThe Lies We’ve Been Fed as Single Women
As a single woman, you’re constantly bombarded with toxic messaging about your body. It’s either you’re:
- Too much of this and not enough of that.
- Too thick or too thin.
- Too confident or too quiet.
- Too high-maintenance or too low-maintenance.
- Too spiritual or not spiritual enough to be “wife material.”
And then there’s that unspoken lie that says: You need to change yourself in order to be chosen.
Well here’s a newsflash: Your body doesn’t exist to be approved of by a man (or the internet trolls for that matter). It’s a gift from God. And God didn’t make a mistake when He designed you or your body.
Well here’s a newsflash: Your body doesn’t exist to be approved of by a man (or the internet trolls for that matter). It’s a gift from God. And God didn’t make a mistake when He designed you or your body. Share on XMy Wake-Up Call
As a single woman, I went through a period of time where I did not take care of my body — not in any way that really mattered anyway. My body was like my car. I did the “basics” just to ensure it would keep running.
However, after a visit to my doctor and one “you’re at risk of high blood pressure” spech later, I quickly realized that, unlike my car, my body needs more than just “the basics.” My body needs TLC — tender love and care, alongside healthier food options, water, and lots of sunscreen to ensure it looks and feels its best.
Unlike a car, I can’t trade my body in for a newer model. I had to ask myself—if I truly believe I’m fearfully and wonderfully made, why don’t I act like it?
The main message that I want to leave you with today is that your body is precious. You only get one. So regardless of whether you are single and ready to mingle, or single and not looking to rekindle, you have got to start taking care of your body, all of it!
And remember, as a woman, when you look good you feel good. You walk with more confidence and authority in your day-to-day life. You don’t accept crap from anybody because you know what you bring to the table.
Unlike a car, your body needs more than just “the basics.” Your body needs TLC — tender love and care, alongside healthier food options, water, and lots of sunscreen to ensure it looks and feels its best. Share on XSo what would self-care look like for you?
Self Care Ideas (Beyond the Basics)
- Start your day with a stretch or 5-minute walk. Get the blood flowing and honor your mobility.
- Upgrade your water game. Add lemon, cucumber, or fruit if it helps you stay hydrated.
- Take vitamins or supplements your doctor recommends (especially if you’re low in iron, Vitamin D, or B12).
- Do a weekly or monthly body scrub to exfoliate dead skin and feel fresh.
- Try dry brushing to stimulate circulation and lymphatic drainage before your shower.
- Switch to a satin or silk pillowcase. It’s not just luxury—it reduces hair breakage and skin irritation.
- Get that mole or skin spot checked. Don’t ignore little signs that something might be off.
- Schedule your annual physical and OB-GYN appointments. It’s not cute to skip your health checks.
- Update your diet: I don’t mean cut out carbs, sweets, and all of the stuff you love (although you could). I mean start to incorporate healthier items into your diet one by one, day by day. Get your taste buds used to food that’s actually good for you and doesn’t make you feel sluggish.
- Treat yourself to real rest. 6–8 hours of sleep if you can. Not doom-scrolling until 2 a.m.!
- Explore movement that brings you joy. Zumba, Pilates, roller skating, walking podcasts —move because you love your body and want to take care of it, not because you hate it.
Beauty & Relaxation Ideas
- Light a candle and make your showers feel like a spa. Add eucalyptus or lavender oil to the steam.
- Create a DIY facial night. Use a mask, a steamer, and play calming music.
- Invest in a plush robe and comfy house slippers. You deserve luxury at home, sis.
- Start going to a licensed hairstylist quarterly. Even if you do your own hair, treat yourself sometimes.
- Use body oils or butters after you shower. Hydrated skin is happy skin.
- Book a massage. Stress hides in your shoulders, neck, head, back, chest, abdomen, jaw… Do yourself a favor, sis, let it go!
Why It Matters Whether You’re Dating or Not
Don’t wait for a wedding ring to start caring for yourself.
Whether you’re single and dating, or single and focusing on you—your body is worthy of love and care right now. Your body deserves the best now.
And remember, the mind-body connection is real! What affects your mind affects your body; and what affects your body affects your mind. Don’t make the mistake of thinking you can neglect one without negatively impacting the other. How can you do self-care in that arena?
Mind-Body-Spirit Alignment
- Unfollow/mute accounts that make you feel “less than.” Your mental health matters.
- Start journaling your thoughts and tracking your moods. Sometimes your body is telling you something your mind hasn’t admitted yet.
- Pray for and over your body. Speak life to your head, breasts, womb, arms, legs, skin. Bless your body with the Word.
- Do Bible-based affirmations. Yes, it feels awkward at first. But start with this: “This body is fearfully and wonderfully made. Thus, I will treat it with love and care.”
Final Thoughts (And a Challenge)
I hope that this post serves as a reminder to take care of yourself and truly start to love the skin you’re in so you can walk in confidence like the queen you are.
Looking good isn’t about vanity—it’s about vitality. When you glow, it’s not just highlighter. It’s wholeness. You walk taller. You speak with more clarity. You attract different energy—not because you’ve become someone else, but because you’ve become more of yourself.
So, what’s one thing you’ll start doing today to care for your body like the temple it is?
Whether it’s upgrading your pillowcase or finally booking that dentist appointment, let it be an act of self-love—not punishment. You deserve to feel good in your skin.
Your body is precious. You only get one. So regardless of whether you are single and ready to mingle, or single and not looking to rekindle, you have got to start taking better care of your body now! Share on XAnd if you have a tip or routine that’s been helping you feel more radiant—drop it in the comments? Tag a sister who could use a spa day, a fresh perspective, and a reminder that her body is worth honoring!