Should I Text Him For the Third Time…or Start a New Life in Another Country?

Okay, confession time: I’ve stared at my phone way too long trying to decode a guy’s reply as if it were ancient Latin. For example, there have been times when I have:

• Analyzed punctuation (“He put an exclamation mark! Is he happy surprised or bad surprised?“)
• Assessed emoji usage (“He used ‘😏’ when he could have used ‘😉’. So is he in agreement or not?”)
• Checked and re-checked my own replies (“Ugh! Ever since I responded, he hasn’t answered. Maybe I should have phrased it differently.“)
• Convinced myself that he was definitely interested in pursuing me because we chatted every day. Spoiler alert: he wasn’t.

If you’ve ever debated texting him just “one more time” then this one’s for you.

What You Need to Know

1). Men are simple creatures.

No, this is not me clowning or shading men or implying they’re dumb. This is me noting that as women, we have a tendency to think men are just as complex as us. WRONG.

Now, that isn’t to say men aren’t multifacted. They can be. But for the average guy, I repeat, men are simple creatures.

Which brings me to the second truth you need to hold onto the next time you’re confused about a guy and are tempted to text him to seek clarity:

2). If he’s not putting in effort, you don’t need to do any mental gymnastics to get clarity.

A man who is genuinely interested will not leave you guessing. I’d even go so far as to say the average guy can’t leave you guessing as they make it so obvious.

I can tell you every single guy who was genuinely interested in pursuing me because frankly, they would not leave me alone! They were relentless.

And I don’t mean this in an “obsessed” or “stalkerish” way. What I mean is they were constantly, consistently, making an effort to chat with me, learn more about me, bump into me, get my number, take me out on a date, and more.

When a guy is into you, you 👏 will 👏  know. 👏

When you meet a guy who is genuinely interested in pursuing you, he won’t leave you wondering if he cares. You’ll just know. How will you know?

Check out part 2 to learn what you need to keep an eye out for.