Should I Text Him For the Third Time…or Start a New Life in Another Country? Pt 2

If you haven’t already, read part 1 here.

So how can you know when a guy is genuinely interested in you?

All you have to do is look at what he DOES not what he SAYS. A man who is interested in pursuing you will show you — consistently, intentionally, and without you having to beg for it.

Sis, please remember:

• It’s not clingy to want communication.
• It’s not “too much” to ask for intentionality.
• It’s not going above and beyond to expect reciprocity.

When you’re with the wrong guy, or a guy who’s only interested in breadcrumbing you to keep you around, you will always be left wanting more.

Now, am I saying that a man should be meeting all of your needs? Heck no!

Remember, you have to find your own happiness before you get into a relationship. Otherwise, you will put way, way too much pressure on your partner to be your everything. And that is a huge relationship killer!

When you’re with the wrong guy, or a guy who’s only interested in breadcrumbing you to keep you around, you will always be left wanting more. Share on X

That being said, it is absolutely exhausting to keep pouring into someone who isn’t pouring back.

• You are not crazy for wanting communication or clear answers.
• You are not a bother because you want to know his intentions.
• You are not desperate for expecting mutual effort.

Want to know what you are? Simply a woman who knows her worth.

A man who is genuinely interested will not leave you guessing. He won’t make you wonder if he cares, because he’ll show you — consistently, intentionally, and without you having to beg for it. Share on X

I said earlier to pay attention to his words over his actions. But also remember that a man who does not keep his word is a walking red flag and contradiction (especially if he says he’s a Christian/godly man!).

The Bible says, “Let your yes be yes and your no be no.” – Matthew 5:37

This means that you ought to be able to take his word at face value without him having to swear up and down to you that he is “telling the truth this time.”

If his words say ‘yes’ but his actions feel like a ‘no’ or ‘maybe’? Believe his actions.

Read on for part 3 to see what you ought to do the next time you feel tempted to text him.