Don’t Believe the Lie! How to Stop Feeling Behind When You’re Single at 50 +

If you’re in your 50s, 60s, or beyond and still waiting for a spouse, the first thing I want to say to you is this,

• Stay the course!
• Don’t lose hope!
• Don’t look at your age and worry that God has forgotten about you.
• Don’t believe the lie that your time is running out.

Remember, God has shown that he is a rewinder of time (both literally and figuratively) in the Bible.

In Joel 2:25 He says, “I will restore to you the years that the swarming locust has eaten…”

And in Joshua 10:12-13 says, “On the day the LORD gave the Amorites over to Israel, Joshua said to the LORD in the presence of Israel: “Sun, stand still over Gibeon, and you, moon, over the Valley of Aijalon.” So the sun stood still, and the moon stopped, till the nation avenged itself on its enemies, as it is written in the Book of Jashar. The sun stopped in the middle of the sky and delayed going down about a full day.”

The same God quoted in those scriptures is the same God who exists today. He can not only restore the years that you feel you have “lost” but He can also stop time.

Second, I want you to know: this message is especially for you. 

Sadly, our culture often ignores women in your stage of life. They act as if once your “youth” (read: Hollywood-approved sex appeal) is in your rearview mirror, you are past your “best buy date.” But God doesn’t think that way. He sees you; and He still has plans for you.

5 Common Concerns in Your 50s+:

1. Menopause has already happened – The chance to have biological children has likely passed, and that can bring a unique kind of grief.
2. Fear it will never happen – After years — maybe even decades — of hoping, your faith might feel worn.
3. You’re so used to doing life alone – You’ve built your routines, your home, your peace. How would sharing it all even work?
4. You don’t see examples of women like you finding love – The stories you long to see feel rare so your brain (or the devil) convinces you they must not exist.
5. You wonder if God said “no” – Not in anger—but in quiet finality. You wonder if maybe God said “no” and you missed it and have been praying in brain.

5 Truths You Need to Breathe In:

1. You are not forgotten – Isaiah 46:4 says, “Even to your old age and gray hairs I am He.” God isn’t done being faithful to you.
2. There’s still room for beauty – Sarah thought her story was over. God blessed her with a son in her old age. Naomi thought her story was over — but God surprised her through Ruth’s story.
3. You are deeply valuable – Love isn’t a reward for youth — it’s a gift. You are more than worthy. In addition, you are already chosen and deeply loved by the God who loved you before you were even a thought in your mother’s mind.
4. You don’t have to earn God’s goodness – His love and provision aren’t based on performance. They’re based on who He is.
5. Hope is your heritage – Romans 15:13 declares that God fills us with all joy and peace as we trust in Him. Your hope isn’t wasted. Hope in God is about waiting with the expectation that you will get what you are praying for.

Encouragement for You:

You are radiant with wisdom, grace, and strength. Don’t believe the lie that it’s too late. Don’t count yourself out of the blessings still to come. Whether God brings a husband or continues to fill your life in other ways, your joy is not capped by a relationship. You are still living. Still growing. Still being pursued by the heart of God.

📚 Book Recommendation: It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way by Lysa TerKeurst
📢 Call to Action: Share this with a friend who needs to know that God isn’t finished with her yet—no matter what her age or relationship status may be.