My mom asked me to make garlic bread for dinner.
Nothing complicated. All I had to do was take the garlic bread out of the freezer, place the slices on a baking sheet, and heat them in the oven for a few minutes at 400°F.
Easy.
So imagine the way I gasped when I looked away from the oven for what felt like a second, turned back, and discovered several slices of very burnt garlic bread!
My sister and I just looked at each other.
The bread was done. And I don’t mean done. I mean DONE done.
My sister assumed we were out of luck. But sometime later, she came back to the dinner table and stopped.
Sitting there in a bowl were beautiful-looking slices of garlic bread.
For a second, she just stared at them. Then it clicked as she turned to me incredulously.
“Bro, don’t tell me you put those burnt garlic breads on the table!”
I told her, “Don’t worry. They won’t know.”
My solution?
I had simply turned every slice upside down. Burnt side down. Perfect golden side up. 🤭
Problem solved…At least until somebody took a bite of it.
My sister and I started laughing as we imagined everybody biting into their garlic bread and hearing that unmistakable, unbearably hard CRUNCH.
And somewhere in the middle of laughing, I realized something.
Isn’t that what we do with sin sometimes?
We learn how to present the part of ourselves that looks good.
Meanwhile, underneath it may be pride, jealousy, bitterness, dishonesty, unforgiveness, lust, selfishness, anger, disobedience, or something else we know God has been dealing with us about.
Instead of bringing it to Him, we turn it over. Burnt side down and hope nobody notices.
But hiding has been part of the human response to sin from the very beginning.
After Adam and Eve disobeyed God, Scripture says they heard Him walking in the garden and hid from Him.
Genesis 3:8–10 (NLT) shows Adam telling God that he was afraid, so he hid.
We learn how to present the part of ourselves that looks good. Meanwhile, underneath it may be pride, jealousy, bitterness, dishonesty, unforgiveness, lust, selfishness, anger, disobedience, or something else we know God has been… Share on XThink about that.
The first instinct after sin entered the picture wasn’t confession.
It was hiding.
And thousands of years later, human nature hasn’t changed very much.
But God never intended for your relationship with Him to be built around hiding.
God never intended for your relationship with Him to be built around hiding. #forsinglewomenonly Share on XHere’s the funny part about trying to hide something from God:
He already knows.
That doesn’t mean confession is pointless. It means confession isn’t about informing God of something He somehow missed.
Confession is about agreeing with God about what’s there.
It’s choosing honesty instead of hiding.
It’s saying, “God, this is what I did. This is where I was wrong. This is what’s happening in my heart. I don’t want to keep carrying this. Please forgive me, change me, and help me turn away from it.”
1 John 1:9 (NLT) tells you that when you confess your sins, God is faithful and just to forgive you and cleanse you from unrighteousness.
Confession isn’t about informing God of something He somehow missed. Confession is about agreeing with God about what’s there. #forsinglewomenonly Share on XThere’s freedom in that.
You don’t have to perform for God.
You don’t have to convince Him that the bread isn’t burned. You can just…show it to Him.
God isn’t asking you to spend your life beating yourself up every time you fall short.
Biblical repentance is bigger than feeling guilty.
Repentance means turning.
Acts 3:19 (NLT) calls people to repent of their sins and turn to God.
That means you acknowledge what’s wrong, receive God’s forgiveness, and begin moving in a different direction.
Proverbs 28:13 (NLT) says that people who conceal their sins won’t prosper, but those who confess and turn from them will receive mercy.
Notice the pattern. Don’t conceal it.
Confess it. Turn from it. Receive mercy.
That is radically different from hiding in shame.
God isn’t asking you to spend your life beating yourself up every time you fall short. Biblical repentance is bigger than feeling guilty. #forsinglewomenonly Share on XGod already sees every part of you. But you can’t expect real transformation in an area you’re determined to keep hidden from Him.
But part of having a healthy relationship with God is also allowing Him access to the uncomfortable parts of your heart.
“Lord, show me where I’m wrong.”
“Show me what needs to change.”
“Show me where I’ve become prideful.”
“Show me where I’ve hurt someone.”
“Show me what I keep excusing.”
God already sees every part of you. But you can’t expect real transformation in an area you’re determined to keep hidden from Him. #forsinglewomenonly Share on XDavid understood this posture when he prayed for God to search his heart and reveal anything offensive within him in Psalm 139:23–24 (NLT).
That kind of prayer takes humility.
But it also creates intimacy.
You stop treating God like Someone you have to hide from and start relating to Him as the Father you can run toward.
And this is where confession becomes about more than your individual relationship with God.
Learning how to admit when you’re wrong is one of the most valuable skills you can carry into marriage!
Marriage brings two imperfect people incredibly close to one another.
Stop treating God like Someone you have to hide from and start relating to Him as the Father you can run toward. #forsinglewomenonly Share on XAt some point, you’re going to say something wrong.
And eventually, you’ll have a choice.
Do you turn the burnt side down?
Or do you say:
If you spend your relationship with God constantly defending yourself, minimizing your mistakes, and avoiding confession, those habits don’t magically disappear when you get married. 😳
But neither do healthy habits.
When you regularly practice confession before God, you become more comfortable acknowledging that you are capable of being wrong.
You learn that admitting failure doesn’t destroy you.
You learn that correction isn’t rejection.
You learn humility, accountability, and how to repair. Those lessons matter in marriage.
James 5:16 (NLT) even emphasizes confessing sins to one another and praying for one another.
Healthy relationships require honesty.
Maybe there’s something you’ve been trying not to look at too closely.
Something you keep excusing. Something God has brought to your attention more than once. Something you’ve been hoping will disappear if you just keep the acceptable side facing up.
Turn it over.
God isn’t shocked by what He sees.
He already knew it was there.
And He still invited you into relationship with Him.
Psalm 32:3–5 (NLT) describes the heaviness David experienced while keeping silent about his sin and the relief that came when he finally confessed it to God.
Maybe that’s part of what God wants for you too.
Not exposure for the sake of humiliation.
And maybe even preparation for the kind of marriage where two people can look at each other and say, “I messed up,” without immediately reaching for excuses.
So bring it to God.
Confess it.
Turn from it.
Let Him work on it.
Because hiding the “burnt side” never actually makes it disappear. It only delays the moment when you have to deal with it.
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