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Let’s just go ahead and name it: Christian singleness can be confusing.
Trust me. I know. On the one hand, I’m trying to stay hopeful and open to love. On the other hand, I’m also trying to protect my heart, not idolize marriage, and not lose joy while I wait. Can you relate? It really feels like balancing on a spiritual seesaw!
Then, you have well-meaning family, friends, and church members who say things like:
- “You just need to be content.”
- “Stop looking! He will show up when you least expect it.”
- “Maybe God is trying to teach you something.”
Le sigh 😮💨 Am I the only one who occasionally wants to smack someone upside the head when they say this?!
I know I can’t be the only one who gets frustrated by annoying (but well-meaning) advice. I’m sure that, like me, you’ve heard it all before.
But what they don’t always say is that contentment doesn’t mean complacency. And being hopeful doesn’t mean you’re not satisfied in God. You can love your life, be full of joy, and still desire a husband — and God can honor both. #ISaidWhatISaid
What the Bible Actually Says (Not What Auntie So-and-So Said)
Let’s go to the Word, not the whispers:
- “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find…” (Matthew 7:7)
→ God literally encourages us to ask and seek, not shrink and suppress. - “Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart.” (Psalm 37:4)
→ Desire isn’t sinful. When your heart is aligned with Him, your desires are safe in His hands. And when the time is right, nothing and no one will be able to stop His amazing plans for you. - “I came that they may have life, and have it abundantly.” (John 10:10)
→ That’s not just future talk. It’s now talk. Sis, your joy is not on layaway until you get a ring. So live your life abundantly NOW!
5 Loving Ways to Respond to “Well-Meaning” (Yet Occasionally Irritating 🙃) People
Here’s how to hold your ground with grace when people give unhelpful advice about waiting:
- “I am waiting on God, but I believe waiting doesn’t mean wasting.”
→ This shows them you’re still trusting God, but you’re also choosing to live your life now. - “I can be content and still have godly desires. God can handle both.”
→ Reframes the false choice they’re presenting (AKA, what’s called black-or-white thinking). Healthy/balanced thinking is not either or; it’s both and. God is not overwhelmed by your joy and longing. - “I’m preparing my heart and life for what I’m praying for.”
→ Helps them understand that you’re not idle, you’re being very intentional. - “God didn’t tell me to sit still—He told me to live abundantly.”
→ This reframes what “waiting” looks like biblically. Waiting is active, not passive. - “I trust God’s timing, but I also know He’s given me this season for a reason.”
→ Reminds them (and yourself) that you’re not just passing time — you’re purposeful with your time.
Pro tip: You can say these with a smile, a head tilt, and a quick subject change if you need to keep it cute or light.
7 Powerful Ways to Enjoy and Thrive in Singleness Right Now
Your single season is not a holding cell. It’s a greenhouse—a place for growth, not punishment. Here’s how to thrive:
- Travel solo or with girlfriends.
→ Start small if needed — a weekend road trip, a solo Airbnb staycation, or even a day trip to a nearby town or hotel (check out ResortPass as one option). Traveling alone builds confidence, creates core memories, and helps you discover more about who you are. - Serve in your community or church.
→ Find a cause you care about. Volunteer at a women’s shelter, mentor a teen, join the hospitality team. When you pour into others, your joy multiplies and your perspective shifts from “lack” to “legacy.” - Learn a new skill or hobby.
→ Want to cook better? Take a cooking class. Love music? Try piano lessons. Start a YouTube channel. You are so much more than your relationship status. Discover what lights you up. - Make your space your sanctuary.
→ Don’t wait until you’re married to decorate with intention. Buy the cozy throw blanket, hang the artwork, burn the candle. Make your home feel like a hug when you walk in. - Nurture life-giving friendships.
→ Schedule recurring friend dates. Build sisterhoods that are deep, fun, and full of accountability. Community is not a consolation prize—it’s necessary. - Start a passion project or side hustle.
→ That blog idea, Etsy shop, podcast, or nonprofit dream? Start laying the foundation now. Marriage won’t suddenly give you more time—it’s actually easier to begin while you’re single. - Make joy a discipline.
→ Schedule fun. Watch comedy. Dance in your kitchen. Take yourself on solo dates. Practicing joy is a spiritual discipline—don’t underestimate it.
Final Words: You Don’t Have to Choose
Sis, don’t let the naysayers dissuade you.
- You can love your life today and still hope for more tomorrow.
- You can laugh with friends on Friday and pray for a husband on Saturday.
- You can explore your city, serve your church, build your brand, and prepare your heart — all while waiting on God.
And guess what? He’s not offended by your desire for marriage. He put it there.
Don’t shrink. Don’t sit still. Live. Thrive. Prepare and do it well!
Share this post with your sister-friend who needs this reminder. And drop a comment below: What’s ONE thing you’re going to start doing this week to thrive in this season?