Don’t Desecrate Your Temple: How to Physically Prepare While You Wait

Let’s talk about something that rarely gets enough attention in Christian conversations around singleness and marriage prep:

Your body. Your temple. Your physical self.

And no, I don’t mean in the “go get a glow-up so you can attract a husband” kind of way.

I mean your energy, your wellness, your habits, your sleep, your food, your confidence, your health.

Because let’s be real: we’re asking God to bring us someone to do life with, but some of us are barely getting through life ourselves. 😳

• You’ve been praying for a husband.
• You’ve been preparing spiritually and emotionally.

But what about your physical life? What about your body — the very vessel that carries your purpose, your calling, and one day, maybe even your children?

So today, we’re going to dive into what it means to honor God with your body and prepare physically while you wait for your husband — not out of desperation or vanity, but out of devotion, preparation, and obedience.

Let’s break this down. Let’s make it practical. Let’s get to work.

What the Bible Says About Your Body

This isn’t about following culture’s fitness obsession. This is about God’s Word.

“Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit…? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.” — 1 Corinthians 6:19–20

Your body is sacred — not just on Sundays, not just when you hit a goal weight/dress size, not just when a man or your friends or your parent says you’re “beautiful.” 

Your body is sacred right now. As it is. If you struggle to believe that, then you need to do the work to affirm the body God gave you. Meditate on verses such as:

• Psalm 139:13–14: “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”
• Ephesians 2:10: “For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.”
• Isaiah 64:8: “Yet you, Lord, are our Father. We are the clay, you are the potter; we are all the work of your hand.”
• Genesis 1:27: “So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.”
• 1 Peter 2:9: “But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.”
• Song of Solomon 4:7: “You are altogether beautiful, my darling; there is no flaw in you.”

It’s time to treat your precious body like the gift it is.

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7 Powerful, Practical Ways to Prepare Physically While You Wait

1. Create a Movement Rhythm that Energizes You

“She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks.” — Proverbs 31:17

Take it from a person who’s not a huge fan of exercise. Exercise doesn’t always feel good, but it is good for you. Despite what your body/mind may say, exercise is not a punishment — it’s praise.

Think of it this way: every single time you get up and move, you are showing God gratitude for a body that can move, carry, and serve. It’s taking care of the body God gave you, the vessel that houses your soul and spirit and allows you to get through your day. A strong body prepares you for a strong marriage.

✅ How to Do This:

• Start with just 10–20 minutes, 3–4 times a week, and increase as you get stronger.
• Pick what feels good/fun for you: walking, swimming, strength training, dance, yoga, kickboxing, Zumba, bike rides.
• Don’t focus on weight loss (besides, as a woman, I’m sure you know how it’s far easier for men to lose weight than women). Instead, focus on energy, strength, and consistency.
• Use free apps like Nike Training Club (iPhone or Android) or YouTube channels like:
  • GrowWithJo (fun + faith-based workouts)
  • MadFit (low-impact, apartment-friendly)
• If you can, head outside. Maybe go for a walk. Sunshine and movement? That’s God’s original therapy.
• Pray to God to make you enjoy some form of exercise. He can help you even with that!

Bonus Tip: Set out your clothes the night before. Leave a gym bag with clothes in the trunk of your car so you can exercise on a whim. Removing “decision fatigue” helps build habits.

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2. Nourish, Don’t Punish — Learn to Eat for Energy and Hormonal Health

Sis, food is fuel. But many of us have either used food as comfort or feared it. Not going to lie. When I’m down in the dumps, a pack of Oreos tastes (and feels) really, really good. That is, until I step on the scale and see all of my progress go down the drain. 🥲

If this sounds familiar, don’t be afraid to go to therapy to learn healthier ways to deal with your uncomfortable feelings/emotions. Let’s rebuild a healthy, grace-filled relationship with nourishment.

✅ How to Do This:

• Aim for balanced, portioned plates: protein + veggies + complex carbs + healthy fats + fiber.
• Learn about blood sugar balance and hormonal health (especially if you deal with fatigue, anxiety, or PCOS)
• Try batch-cooking simple meals on Sundays (chili, roasted veggies, baked salmon, grain bowls).
• Keep healthy snacks on hand: nuts, Greek yogurt, fruit, boiled eggs, protein bars.
• Stay hydrated. Try water infusions with lemon, mint, or cucumber to make it fun.

What NOT to do: Skipping meals. Over-caffeinating. Bingeing late at night. Living at drive-thru windows or on Uber Eats, DoorDash, Grubhub, Caviar, or Postmates.

What you SHOULD do instead: Start treating your body like something you love, not something you’re trying to “fix.”

3. Prioritize Rest Like Your Life Depends on It (Because It Does)

“In vain you rise early and stay up late, toiling for food to eat — for He grants sleep to those He loves.” — Psalm 127:2

Chronic fatigue is not a badge of honor. Hustling 24/7 is not holy. You cannot pour from an empty vessel.

✅ How to Do This:

• Create a wind-down routine:
  • Set a consistent bedtime.
  • Dim lights 1 hour before sleep.
  • Put your phone on Do Not Disturb and charge it outside the bedroom if possible.
  • Read a devotional or do breath prayers in bed.
• Try melatonin, magnesium, or Sleepytime teas (like this one) to support rest.
• Use sleep sound apps like Abide (Christian meditations for iPhone or Android).

Pro Tip: Treat your bedroom like a sanctuary. Soft sheets. Clean space. Peaceful atmosphere. Do NOT work in bed! I know, I know, it can be so comfortable! But you want your body to associate bed with sleeping…not working.

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4. Refresh Your Appearance with Purpose, Not Pressure

“She is clothed with fine linen and purple…” — Proverbs 31:22

Yes, it’s biblical to look and feel put together! But this isn’t about striving for perfection. It’s about showing up in the world with intention and grace.

✅ How to Do This:

• Define your personal style: feminine, artsy, edgy, minimal, boho, classic, trendy, vintage, etc.
• Create a capsule wardrobe of flattering, confidence-boosting outfits.
• Invest in skincare or haircare routines that feel good to you.
• Choose 1–2 small things that make you feel radiant: perfume, polished nails, eyeliner, a new lipstick/lipgloss.

Remember: looking “put together” isn’t vanity — it’s stewardship and self-respect.

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A Word to the Sis Who’s Not Really a “Girly Girl”

Hey you, with the hoodie, the sweats, the messy bun, and the trusty Crocs or sneakers. Maybe you’re reading this and thinking “I’m not a girly girl. I’m not into pink, or Barbie, or being super feminine. Where do I fit in?”

This blog is not about:

• Becoming a glamazon or suddenly loving ruffles, lashes, and rosy lip stains.
• It’s not about being a size 4.
• It’s not about fitting into a “wife aesthetic” box that doesn’t match who you are.
• You don’t have to be super girly to be godly.
• You don’t have to love dresses to be prepared.
• And you certainly don’t have to change your whole vibe just to get a man’s attention.

Style is personal. Comfort is valid. Authenticity is powerful.

Physical preparation is simply about showing up as the best version of yourself — energized, cared for, and confident. Whether that’s in leggings and a hoodie or heels and a midi dress, it’s about intention, not imitation.

So don’t let the pressure to “look a certain way” rob you of the joy of becoming the woman God is calling you to be.
Just show up. As you. Fully, freely, and authentically.

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5. Get On Top of Your Health Like a Boss

“The wise woman builds her house…” — Proverbs 14:1
So start with your own!

✅ How to Do This:

• Book your appointments now: primary care doctor, dentist, OB/GYN, eye doctor, etc. If you can’t afford insurance, eat as healthy as you can, regularly exercise, and leave your health in God’s hand. He WILL be your health insurance plan.
• Know your numbers: blood pressure, blood sugar, iron levels, thyroid, cholesterol, etc.
• Keep a health journal to track any patterns (fatigue, irregular cycles, bloating, pain). I use the Health app on my iPhone.
• Learn about fertility health, even if you’re not planning to have kids anytime soon.
• Take vitamins and supplements that support YOUR body (ask your doctor for recommendations and do your research).

Pro Tip: Health knowledge is power. And when you’re married or raising a family, it will matter more than ever. So start cultivating these habits now.

6. Speak to Your Body With Kindness

“Death and life are in the power of the tongue…” — Proverbs 18:21

Every time you insult your body, you’re insulting the God who created it. Let that sink in.

✅ How to Do This:

• Look in the mirror each morning and say 3 truths:
  • “I am not behind. I am becoming.”
  • “This body is strong, capable, and beautiful.”
  • “God made no mistakes when He made me.”
• Write sticky notes with affirmations and place them on your mirror, fridge, and journal.
• Thank God daily for what your body can DO, not just how it looks.

Bonus: Record affirmations on your phone in your own voice and listen to them while you walk, cook, or do laundry.

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7. Set Physical Boundaries That Protect Your Peace

Let’s not forget this: part of physical preparation is learning what you won’t allow.

✅ How to Do This:

• Set boundaries around your body in dating:
  • No late-night “Netflix and chill.”
  • Don’t tolerate hands, eyes, or language that violate your comfort.
• Set health boundaries:
  • Say ‘no’ to back-to-back commitments that leave no time for meals or rest.
  • Say ‘no’ to people who drain your energy and disregard your self-care.
• Set spiritual boundaries:
  • Say ‘no’ to letting shame control how you see your body.
  • Say ‘yes’ to viewing your body as holy ground created by a perfect God, not a problem to be fixed.

Your body is not community property. It is sacred territory.

Sis, if you forget everything else I’ve said today, remember this: your physical health is not a side note in your faith walk. It’s part of your calling.

Your future husband will be blessed by the rhythms, strength, and self-care habits you cultivate now — not because you did it “for” him, but because you did it with love, for yourself, and unto the Lord.

And remember:

• You don’t need to be perfect—just present.
• You don’t need to look like her—just be the best version of you.
• You don’t need to wait until marriage to feel beautiful, vibrant, or alive.

You can start this all today.

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When Someone Says “You’re Trying Too Hard”

Say this with love and clarity:

“I’m not trying to be perfect — I’m trying to be prepared. I believe stewarding my health is part of honoring God.”

Or:

“I want to feel strong and whole for whatever season God calls me into — marriage or otherwise.”

Sis, this week I challenge you to do ONE thing for your body — not to earn love, but to show it. Some examples:

✅ Go for a walk.
✅ Take the dance class.
✅ Book a checkup.
✅ Revamp your wardrobe.
✅ Make a nourishing meal.
✅ Treat yourself to a spa day.
✅ Speak a kind word to yourself.

Text this post to a friend. Let her know: 

We don’t wait for a husband to live — we live well while we wait.