When You Feel Like God Loves Every Other Woman More: The Truth That Will Set Your Heart Free

I love, love a good love story. I’m the girl who loves to ask:

• How and where did you meet?
• Was there an initial attraction or did it develop over time?
• How long did you date?
• When did you know they were “The One”?

It can be so fun to hear people’s love stories, watch both their faces light up at the memories, and listen to their testimonies of how God provided them a spouse.

But what happens when you keep hearing dozens, if not hundreds, of love stories, yet your own remains conspicuously absent?

• What happens when everyone else is going on dates and you’re at home watching The Bachelor?
• What happens when your girlfriend just broke up with her fourth boyfriend, and starts telling you about her new potential man, when you can’t even find one?
• What happens when your friend, who was the queen of “hot girl summer” snags a handsome, godly, eligible bachelor while you, Miss Modesty, only attract unbelievers?

Is there a small part of you that feels envious of them? Or maybe you do your best to be happy for them, but simultaneously can’t help but feel sorry for yourself?

I have been there, sis. As a matter of fact, I am currently still there.

I have been waiting on God to send me my person and have instead been witness to everybody and their mama finding their One…and sometimes their second, third, and fourth…

So what’s a girl to do when you feel like maybe your name has fallen through the cracks of God’s list of received prayers?

What's a girl to do when she feels like her name has fallen through the cracks of God's list of received prayers? Read here… Share on X

To the woman who feels forgotten…

• The one who claps at every engagement announcement.
• The one who volunteers to cook something for the bridal shower.
• The one who purchases diapers for the baby shower.
• The one who brings a bottle of wine to the house warming party but then drives back to her apartment alone, wondering, “God…what about me?”

You love your sisters in Christ. You rejoice with them.

But lately, if you’re honest, every answered prayer in someone else’s life feels like a reminder of the silence in your own. You know the Bible says that envy rots the bones (Proverbs 14:30), yet you’re at the point where you feel like, “So what? Let them rot, then, because I am tired!

Be human, be real

Can I be honest? It can be hard to keep praying and waiting patiently, especially when you feel like you’ve been the “faithful one.”

• The “church” girl.
• The “prayer warrior.”
• The “Bible-study-hosting, born-again virgin, tithe-paying, daughter of the King.”

Yet, it feels like your prayers stop at the ceiling while someone else who just whispers “God, I want…” gets their prayer answered overnight.

It feels like God is Santa for them — bringing them gift, after gift, after gift — but all He has for you is nothing…or a lump of coal.

Truth > Feelings

I’m here to tell you this one truth: feeling that way doesn’t make you faithless. It makes you human.

I’ve felt that. Deeply. I’ve sat listening to worship music or journaling with tears rolling down my face. I know God loves me, yet I’m not sure why He keeps saying “wait” — or worse, nothing at all.

So if you’re there right now, feeling like you’re the only one not getting picked, not getting loved, not getting your miracle, I want to shine some light into some of the lies the enemy may be whispering to you.

If you’re there right now, feeling like you’re the only one not getting picked, not getting loved, not getting your miracle, I want to shine some light into some of the lies the enemy may be whispering to you… Share on X

5 Lies the Enemy Uses to Make You Feel Unloved By God (And The Truth That Breaks Them)

1. Lie: “God loves everyone else more than He loves you.”
   • Truth: “I have loved you with an everlasting love.” – Jeremiah 31:3
     God’s love isn’t measured by answered prayers or relationship statuses. It’s eternal, not circumstantial. Your waiting isn’t evidence of rejection—it may be preparation, protection, or a divine redirection.
2. Lie: “If God really cared, you’d be happy by now.”
   • Truth: “No good thing does He withhold from those who walk uprightly.” – Psalm 84:11
     Sis, did you hear that? He withholds nothing good. If it’s not here yet, it’s not because He’s cruel—it’s because He sees the full picture. And yes, that’s frustrating. But His delay is not His denial.
3. Lie: “You’re too much. That’s why no one chooses you.”
   • Truth: “You are altogether beautiful, my love; there is no flaw in you.” – Song of Solomon 4:7
     You’re not too loud, too quiet, too curvy, too holy, too ambitious, or too “spiritual.” You are just enough and more than enough. The right man will recognize the divine design in you and rise up to meet you.
4. Lie: “God will forget about you.”
   • Truth: “See, I have engraved you on the palms of My hands.” – Isaiah 49:16
     God doesn’t forget. He’s not absentminded. Your name is written into His story. You are in His heart and in His hands.
5. Lie: “Your life will always be this way.”
   • Truth: “Behold, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?” – Isaiah 43:19
     God is the Author of new beginnings. One word from Him can shift your entire season. Don’t mistake silence for stillness. Heaven is always working behind the scenes.

Journal Prompts to Anchor You in Truth

When you feel the lies pressing in on you, go grab your journal (if you don’t have one, get one!) and open the Word of God. These prompts can help bring clarity and healing:

• What lie have I been believing about myself or about God?
• What Scripture can I declare to combat that lie?
• How has God shown His love for me in quiet, personal ways?
• What blessings in my life today prove that I am seen?
• What kind of love or partnership do I truly long for—and what fears are tied to that desire?

Practical Ways to Stay Anchored in Love and Community

Sis, you’re not meant to walk this out alone.

Here are 10 soul-care tips to help you walk this season with grace and power:

1. Stay in Scripture daily, even if it’s one verse. Let God’s truth rewire the lies the devil tries to inject into your mind.
2. Curate your environment — follow encouraging voices (YouTube, IG, Facebook, etc.) and mute/unfollow ones that fuel you comparing yourself to others.
3. Pray honestly. I’m not talking about those polished prayers. Get real, get ugly: “God I don’t get it,” “God, this doesn’t feel fair,” “God, why aren’t you answering me,” kind of prayers. Trust me, God wants to hear how you really feel. Don’t hide it; be vulnerable with Him.
4. Join a small group at your local church. If your church doesn’t have one, create it. There may be other people around you struggling with the same thoughts/feelings. Make space for real, safe sisterhood.
5. Serve somewhere regularly — It can be a homeless/women’s shelter, a soup kitchen, a library, or even your local church. Remember, helping others often reminds us of our value.
6. Create a gratitude journal. Write down daily “evidences of God’s love” toward you.
7. Set boundaries with conversations that center on “When are you getting married?” You don’t owe everyone access to your past, your story, or your heart.
8. Lean into spiritual practices like fasting and worship. They shift the atmosphere in ways we can’t always see.
9. Speak life over yourself out loud — scriptures, Bible-based, affirmations, declarations, and anything that will help remind you that God has not forgotten about you.
10. Don’t isolate when you’re hurting. Call a friend. Let someone hold space for you.

What You Must Remember

I know it’s hard. I know it feels unfair. But God does not love her more than you. As a matter of fact, God can’t love you anymore or any less than He already does!!! You are precious to Him.

As long as you live on this earth, you will experience pain/disappointment. Your pain, suffering, or loss is not proof that God doesn’t love you. It’s proof that you’re human in a broken world, holding onto hope. In spite of what the devil would have you believe:

• You are not disqualified from joy.
• You are not forgotten.
• You are not invisible.
• Your prayer request has not fallen through the cracks.

As long as you live on this earth, you will experience pain/disappointment. Your pain, suffering, or loss is not proof that God doesn’t love you. It’s proof that you’re human in a broken world, holding onto hope. Share on X

You are deeply, fiercely, forever loved. Trust that even now, God is working on your behalf. Don’t believe the lie. God loves you dearly, and He cannot forget about you.

You are deeply, fiercely, forever loved. Trust that even now, God is working on your behalf. Don't believe the lie. God loves you dearly, and He cannot forget about you. Share on X

Share this with a sister who needed to be reminded that God loves her too. What advice would you give to a sister who feels tired of hearing other people’s good news? Comment below!